When grievers are told that they should be "moving on", what exactly does that mean? It was the topic of intense consternation for one of my clients recently. The first anniversary of her husband's sudden death just passed. Seemingly intelligent people that she thought cared about and understood her asked, "Are you ready to start dating again?" Or said things such as; "Don't you think it is time to move on?"  Moving on and getting on with your life are not the same things to

As we approach the holidays, I wanted to reprise my ‘How to get through the holidays" post. It is painful every day, but for some, it can feel even more intense during the holidays when missing a loved one. Just know that you are not alone and to always take good care of yourself. 1) Take it easy. Be kind to yourself. No pressure needed. 2) Cherish the memories of better times. Set aside the sad ones. 3) Remember the good times. And know that your loved one wants you to be

Today I happened upon an article about grief attributed to Christopher Walken. It struck a chord with me as he said essentially what I always tell people. You never stop missing the loved one who died; eventually, you get used to the gaping hole the death leaves in your heart, mind, and soul. Earlier this week, while visiting with my friend Wanda whom I have known since Jr. High, she brought up my long-ago boyfriend Michael Poth. We were junior/senior high sweethearts. He w