I was flying home from Ireland a few weeks ago and looked out at the top of the clouds. It reminded me of Cory. The first time he saw the tops of clouds he asked if we could go play on them. I believe he got his wish. As we approach the holidays I wanted to reprise my 'Things to remember' list. I also added five more this year. It is so difficult to get through the holidays when missing a loved one. Just know that you are not alone. I hope these help. Here ya go: 1) Be kin

Living on the edge of despair is common for grievers. It doesn't matter how your child dies whether from an accident, disease or murder you feel as if your heart is ripped out of your chest, stomped on a million times, torn to shreds, and what's left is shoved back in. But, healing is possible if you can make some sense out of what you are experiencing. If you can make your child's life count for something good afterward it can help tremendously. Many people decide to help

No one grieves the same way or at the same pace. Families reeling from a loss, especially death, struggle with the differences because they don't understand why others aren't portraying the same feelings or behaving as him or her. It always bears repeating. No one grieves the same. Our grief is as individual as snowflakes. We have different life experiences and beliefs that shape us. So, don't judge how others are grieving or not. In the case of children and teens, they oft