The anniversary of the fire that devastated Lahaina was last month. It has taken me this long to process my feelings about it. When the Day Fades Into Gold My dear friend Waltye Rasulala asked if I had viewed the documentary about the fire. I told her that I could not because it is too hard. Knowing so many people who perished and those whose lives were turned upside down when their homes, places of employment, vehicles, churches, essentially our hometown were destroyed, Augu

Mother's Day just passed which also means the anniversary of my son's death. Time does not heal the pain of grief. I know I have said that over and over. I am proof. It still hurts like crazy and he has been gone for 39 years. The Beauty of Looking From Above It feels like moments ago while at other times it feels like a lifetime ago. People who have been fortunate enough not have had a child die won't understand that statement. Now, it has been a few weeks since and I am sti

The grief that comes from your child or any loved one dying is horrific. But sometimes surviving sucks too. It is like a spiral. You fight to stay alive by any means possible, but your quality of life can be screwed up forever. The Beauty of Being Rooted and Free I was just talking about how I know so many kids who survived their cancer but who have been left miserable afterwards. So many have residual effects from the treatments they received. One young man has been in and o