If you google "Young Widows" or "Young Widows and Widowers" all you get are dating sites. I was stunned. As if the main point is to replace the person who died. From my clients, I know for a fact that replacing a beloved spouse is the furthest thing from the minds of grievers no matter his or her age. Young widows are a sub-category of grievers. Not to sound so clinical about it., but age does make a difference in the way young widows are treated. People tend to say things s

When your loved one crosses over the rainbow bridge it hurts. Holidays are rough for the first few years. I think birthdays are painful forever. You always have the compulsion to add another year of "what ifs?" and "if only (s)." My son's birthday is coming up in a few days and even though he has been out of his physical body four times longer than he was with me, another birthday without him still causes my heart to ache. Cory's cousin just crossed over the rainbow bridge

When a loved one dies, grief can be compounded by how others react and treat you. It is important to be careful about what you say. I have recently been talking at length with a newly widowed woman I know about the things people say to her. Some people try to be supportive and kind. More have the "open mouth and insert foot" disease. For example, all those folks who say, "I know how you feel." Don't. "You will meet someone else." Not even a thought. "You are still young...."