2020 has been a dismal year for so many of us. Being forced to live in a bubble, jobs lost, health insurance lost, a government that has failed to provide adequate assistance for citizens who cannot pay rent, feed their families, etc. It just compounds the sadness for grievers. The upside of 2020 and being locked down is this year has been a time of serious reflection. In the span of a few weeks Barb, one of dearest friends, Linda, who was like my older sister, and Bill, a c

Aloha kakou, It is that time of year again. You may find yourself more sensitive, irritable, less patient, and sad right now. The first few years after your loss, you expect to feel poorly on birthdays and holidays - mainly because others have warned you. You don't expect it to start weeks prior, though. So, if you are feeling out of sorts more than usual, take a deep breath to calm yourself and try to focus on a happy memory of a good time that you shared with your loved

Pennies from Heaven? How many of us have heard that after the death of a loved one pennies or dimes are suddenly discovered everywhere? On the ground. In pockets. In old pocketbooks or wallets. Are they really signs from the other side? Well, I for one keep all the pennies and dimes I find on the ground. Hardly anyone bothers with pennies so maybe that is why there is an abundance of them. But, I like the idea that loved ones are letting me know they are okay or near. Recen