When you lose a loved one, it can break your heart and your spirit. It can feel like being at the bottom of a valley that will take forever to climb out from. It takes a long time to sort out your feelings...good and bad. This reminds me of the stage of grief that Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross came up with. They were actually meant for a dying person not those grieving a loss. Her explanation of the stages of grief have been corrupted and misquoted. The truth of the matter is th

I was really angry when my mother passed away less than three months after my father. He had been in poor health for awhile and my mother was too stoic to let on how exhausted she was from caring for him alone. The health of our parents should have been a priority but when life is busy we did not pay attention as closely as we should have. So, after my father passed we all had plans to do something for our mother to make up for the times she couldn't go on vacation. My bro

When someone dies grief can affect you emotionally physically spiritually and socially. What does it take to make it through the maze of emotions? After the numbness fades the pain intensifies and then what to do? One way of coping is to write about your experience. During my workshops I encourage participants to write a letter to their loved ones, those who died and those who are still alive. We have written poetry together. A poem is a great outlet. Even people who aren't