When a loved one dies, grief can be compounded by how others react and treat you. It is important to be careful about what you say. I have recently been talking at length with a newly widowed woman I know about the things people say to her. Some people try to be supportive and kind. More have the "open mouth and insert foot" disease. For example, all those folks who say, "I know how you feel." Don't. "You will meet someone else." Not even a thought. "You are still young...."

Happy 2019! Well, as happy as you can be when grieving... It is difficult to think of yourself when things in your life get turned upside down. It gets worse when a loved one dies. You are so focused on the pain and sadness you might not tune in to your own basic needs such as eating healthy foods, getting enough rest, exercise, and staying away from mood altering substances. Try the following: Ask for help- lower your expectations of what you need to accomplish. Focus on y

As we approach the holidays I wanted to reprise my ‘How to get through the holidays list. It is difficult during the holidays when missing a loved one. Just know that you are not alone. 1) Take it easy. Be kind to yourself. No pressure needed. 2) Cherish the memories of better times. Set aside the sad ones. 3) Remember the good times.. And know that your loved one wants you to be happy. 4) Acknowledge your pain and then put your energy into honoring his or her memory. 5